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The Gaze of Success
In addition to a great talent in a specific field of culture you just can't be a dandy or a fashionmonger to become a celebrity. There are also some other concepts to consider: the function of vision, exhibitionism, the gaze, desire and narcissism, grandiosity, anxiety-, stress- and anger management, self-image and self-esteem.
The function of vision is a trap. As Sigmund Freud have showed us in his paper "Instincts and their Vicissitudes" the split between gaze and vision will enable us to add the scopic drive to the list of other fundamental human drives. Indeed, it is this scopic drive that most completely eludes the psychoanalytical term; castration and constitute a lack of separation and alienation in the human being. The desire of the gaze is the human subject's most important desire since her early childhood. It's in this scopic drive and in the gaze the new-born child for the first time recognise and meet his mother, and later in life, all the beloved one's. The exhibitionist tries to adapt him self to it and loves to be looked at, in the same way as a mother admires her privileged new-borns preferences. It is in this relation leading the human subject back to his signifying dependence of happy or unhappy encounter between two pair of eyes the exhibitionist desire emerges.
The exhibitionist artist provokes our world in a way that a feeling of strangeness begins. He circumvents us in a dream world full of eternally lacking objects. This means that in the so-called waking state, there is an elision of the gaze, and an elision of the fact that not only does it looks, it also shows. In the field of the dream, on the other hand, what characterise the images are that they show. For the exhibitionist is the gaze itself the object of the desire. The course of the drive is the only form of transgression that is permitted to the subject in relation to the pleasure principle. The gaze is the object lost and suddenly re-found in the conflagration of shame, by the introduction of a audience re-presentation the other. An exhibitionist therefore loves the lights shining at him on stage, loves to show, and feels uncomfortable with the darkness and feelings of emptiness behind the stage. He seeks the audience confirmation in a nearly pervert manner, eager and demanding for a great success and to be high respected and admired. He really loves and enjoys being the Artist in the Gaze!
The narcissistic subject are in love with his own voice and speech in a such a extreme manner that he can't listen to other people or completely ignore what they want to tell him. Such a man or woman could be very selfish and self-centred and have sometimes-developed delusions of grandiose grandeur. The grandiosity inflated self-esteem or self-worth, usually manifested as content of thinking or talk with themes reflecting his beliefs that he is the greatest or has special attributes or abilities. In his grandeur he loves the myths and images of the divine goddesses, deities and legendary men and women and has got a true deep and strong identification with them. When he talks there're no doubt, he don't hesitate like the neurotic, he are the owner of the Word. There are rarely any communication but more of commander's respect.
Like other people the celebrity man or woman expectations, anxiety, fear, perfectionism, demand can produce and may cause many other emotional effects and problems for him. We respond differently to circumstances in life, but some of the most common problems are described below.
Anxiety is a natural response to certain situations. For some people it lasts long after an anxiety situation has occurred. This happens when views of the world and a sense of safety have been damaged or lost. Triggers or cues that can cause anxiety may include places, times of day, name's, pictures, certain smells or noises, or any situation that reminds you of the traumatic event. Some people have flashbacks as if a trauma is occurring again. Nightmares are also common. These symptoms occur because a traumatic experience is so shocking and so different from everyday life experiences that you can't fit it into what you know about the world. In order to understand the event, your mind keeps bringing the memory back.
Increased psychological stress arousal is also a common response. This includes feeling jumpy, jittery, shaky, being easily startled and having trouble concentrating or sleeping. Continuous arousal can lead to impatience and irritability, especially if you're not getting enough sleep. The arousal reactions are due to the fight or flight response in our body. The fight or flight response is the natural way we protect ourselves against danger. When we protect ourselves from danger by fighting or running away, we need a lot more energy than usual, so our body's pump out extra adrenaline to help us get the extra energy we need to survive. People who have been traumatised often see the world as filled with danger, so their bodies are on constant alert, always ready to respond immediately to any attack. The problem is that increased arousal is useful in truly dangerous situations, such as if we find ourselves facing a bear. A high alertness becomes very uncomfortable and can cause chronically decease when it continues for a long time.
Avoidance is further a way of managing things. The most common is avoiding places and situations that remind you of humiliations or violence, such as the place where it happened. Often situations that are less directly related to the trauma are also avoided, such as going out in the evening if the trauma occurred at night. Another way to reduce discomfort is trying to push away painful thoughts and feelings.
Many people feel anger and irritability. If you are not used to feeling angry this may seem scary as well. It may be especially confusing to feel angry with those who are closest to you. Sometimes people feel angry because of feeling irritable so often. Anger can also arise from a feeling that the world is not true or fair.
Fame and prosperity often leads to feelings of guilt and shame. Many people blame themselves for things they did or didn't do. You might feel ashamed because of envy and suspicious insinuations, thoughts and stupid talking from other people and during the career you might have acted in ways that you would not otherwise have done. Sometimes, other people directly blame you for your talents, skills and prosperity. Feeling guilty about a prosperity career means that you are taking the responsibility for what occurred. While this may make you feel somewhat more in control, it can also lead to feelings of helplessness and depression.
Grief and depression are also common reactions to celebrity and prosperity. This can include feeling down, sad, hopeless or despairing. You may worry more often. You may lose interest in people and activities you used to enjoy. You may also feel that plans you had for the future don't seem to matter anymore, or that life isn't worth living. These feelings can lead you to destructive unconscious aggressive thoughts of wishing to hurt or kill. Because the circumstances in life has changed so much of how you see the world and yourself, it makes sense to feel sad and to grieve for what you lost from your earlier living.
Self-image and views of the world could change. You may tell yourself, "If I hadn't been ..or done..this wouldn't have happened to me." Many people see themselves as more insensitive, misread and questionable ("I am a bad person and deserved this."). It is also very common to see others more negatively, and to feel that you can't trust anyone. If you used to think about the world as a safe place, the prosperity and fame may suddenly make you think that the world is very dangerous place to live in. If you had previous bad experiences, this convinces you that the world is dangerous and others aren't to be trusted. These negative thoughts often make people feel they have been changed completely by their fortune. Relationships with others can become tense and it is difficult to become intimate with people as your trust decreases.
Sexual relationships and the use of alcohol or other substances may also suffer after an experience of a celebrity living. Many people find it difficult to maintain true sexual feelings or have longer sexual relationships. Some people increase their use of sex, alcohol or other substances. There is nothing wrong with responsible sexual relationships and drinking in a responsible manner, but when the use of sexual partners, alcohol or drugs changed as a direct result of the prosperity itself, it can cause severe problems of its own.
Television and other media play a critical role in the celebrity's life. The media provides needed information, makes announcements, and gives available news within fashion- and glamour industry. They are a resource for the community and can provide a source of real truth for many people. However, too much exposition in media may have a negative impact, especially on exhibitionist and narcissist vulnerable subjects. Unfortunately prominent and prosperity celebrities also have to recognised that the influential broadcasting, television and publishing industry sometimes produce a humour based on people's disabilities. Is the gaze of success a dangerous fashions desire for prominent prosperity celebrity women and men?
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The Gaze of Success